How being in a Relationship reveals our Defensiveness
Relationships are pivotal because they help us know ourselves better. Being part of a couple helps us understand who we are, from someone else's eyes. Our partner might see the things we no longer do, what's adorable and what's conceited. They might notice that we trust people too easily, or we overreacted that one time, over the things going on at work or that we've said the same anecdote for the third time. Their feedback to us has the potential to function as the root to self improvement, to help us grow less narcissistic and vain but more times than not, we walk away from relationships with most of our delusions intact. Most of this boils down to our pride and defensiveness. Defensiveness is predominantly the major cause behind the failure of relationships. The real problem with defensiveness is that there are no particular set of situations that triggers it. No matter how much two people are in admiration and love of each other; With time and the birth of real i...
